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Over my short time on earth, I’ve learned that trauma and loss are inevitable. No one wins all the time. Well, that is unless you are God, and you have a whole slew of angels at your command (insert Holy Ghost tongues).
There are times we lose what is dear to us. Sometimes it can be a person. Other times it can be our faith in a particular situation, or we can even lose ourselves.
Those defeats often lead to an emotional trauma that is hard to articulate into words. It’s the kind of pain that gives the illusion that life will never get better. These hard times are challenging to overcome.
I’ve recently found that even in heartache, pain, trauma, and loss, there is beauty.
It’s not the kind of beauty that is apparent during the loss. It’s the kind of beauty that is seen when you and I look back.
I know it does not feel like it right now. I know you can’t see it through the cloud of what could have been, but if you allow the dust to settle. If you look through your emotional trauma, you will soon realize that there are lessons this experience is teaching you.
Amid trauma and loss:
It’s Never Too Late To Start Over
Today, at this very moment, you get to start over. I have never read a book where one chapter ended, and there was not another chapter on the horizon, that is unless the book is over.
Last time I checked, every day you breathe, your book is not over. I’ve recently experienced a personal loss that came for everything I thought I knew. It was unexpected, and even in that loss, I felt like I was losing myself.
Then one day, after agonizing for too long, I decided to make it stop. YES! I made a decision.
The fact is neither you nor I can control life. We don’t have that kind of power. What we can control is how we respond to what happens to us.
Sure enough, when my response changed, my emotions started to follow. In that, I strategically planned how to start over and develop a better me. This included every aspect of my life.
Spiritually, physically, and emotionally.
I am sharing this with you because I don’t want you to get lost in your trauma. Instead, get back to the drawing board.
Think of some ways to reinvent yourself.
- Spend time with God through reading the Bible
- Get involved in your community.
- Develop your skills, gifts, and talents.
There is a whole life in front of you. Whatever you do, don’t just sit there and wallow in what was.
Position Yourself to be Found
The beauty of loss is that it places you in the perfect position to be found and discover something new.
If you have experienced loss or even lost everything you knew, now God can introduce you to what you never knew. To what you could have never imagined.
His plans are so much bigger than you could ever imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
Without losing the wrong relationships, you cannot be found by the right ones. Had you not encountered loss, you could not help someone else also experiencing loss. If you were never lost, then God could not have found you.
Rather than waving your microscope on what was lost, focus on what could be found. Focus on the beautiful blessings that are seeking you out.
Seek God
Experiencing loss also places you in a position to seek.
Losing something compels us to go deeper. It initiates a yearning to step into the next.
It can be a pursuit for solutions to your problem, answers to life questions, or regaining peace of mind. Whatever you are seeking, I assure you that your answer can be found in God.
I wish that I could take away the pain of your trauma and loss, but Only God can do that. I encourage you to seek Him until you find Him (Matthew 7:7). Rest assured, as long as you do not give up, you will find Him.
Know that there is life after trauma and loss!
As always,
Be strong, Be courageous, Serve God Wholeheartedly.
Gilberta Thompson
